I’ve been a mom for a few years now and what motherhood taught me is that you need a support system. They say, it takes a village, and they are right! You need your family, you need friends and you definitely need other moms. In those moments when motherhood is too much, you will want to commiserate with others who understand you, and you will find that with other moms.
I started this blog project because I know very well how it feels to feel lonely in your motherhood struggles. You might have post partum depression or you may feel like motherhood doesn’t come naturally. Maybe you’re really happy to be a mom but you just feel incredibly neglected by everybody in the world. I just want you to know, that other moms out there feel the same.
In this chapter I spoke to Annah who is a make up artist, incredibly funny and full of life. She’s a mom to three. You can find her on Instragram here. Next week Annah will be back to give us some tips on how to make our skin amazing before a photo session.
Tell me a bit about yourself, what would you like others to know about you?
I’m a mother of three, my two teenage boys are from my partner’s previous relationship, and my daughter completed our pack four years ago. I’m a makeup artist, friend, lover, DIYer, and patchouli lover.
How do you define motherhood?
Motherhood is an everlasting fire. It is primal fear. It is empathy. It is pride. It is life changing and ever flowing.
Do you feel motherhood has changed you? In what ways?
Motherhood absolutely changed me! I became a mother overnight when my partner and I decided to move me to Portland and live together. My boys made me a mother. It just clicked for us. We just kind of fell into place as a family. Then my daughter came and solidified the expansive love that my boys helped me discover. That being said, motherhood has given me the opportunity to reevaluate my actions, to focus on priorities that shifted considerably in the process, to keep going when energy is low – in sickness and health, to love myself in order to set a good example for the humans I’m helping raise.
What is your biggest fear as a mother?
My biggest fear as a mother is my children’s health. Everything else can be solved or bought. Health and wellness are priorities. This goes on all accounts: physical, emotional, mental.
What support do you think mothers lack the most in society?
The support I think mothers lack the most in society is mental health. Let’s face it, for the most part, we’re taking care of everything. We are *expected* to take care of everything. We are expected to stay strong. We are expected to be beacons of goodness. We support. We nurture. But when the responsibilities are heavy and nonstop – we also need to have outlets in order to maintain a healthy base level in order to continue giving our all. I’m seeing and hearing my mama friends complain that they don’t have time for themselves, myself included, complain they don’t have moments to breathe, and the ones they do have are very few and far between. We need these breathers to stay healthy, not just for our kids, but for ourselves.
How can mothers show up for each other?
Without judgement. With transparency. With empathy. With humor. (And a nice bottle of wine.)
How do you want to remember this period in your life?
Oooof, this one’s a doozy. I want to remember this period in my life as a moment in time where my kids and I establish healthy groundwork for the rest of our lives together. I want us all to look back and recognize the highs and lows, and how they brought us closer in the long run. I want to remember this period with a smile on my face.