Motherhood – joy, pain, nostalgia, guilt and so much more. I always wondered if other moms had the same fears, frustrations and hopes I did.
Sometimes is easy to get lost on the endless discussions about vaccinations, online learning, and so many other important things, but what about the big picture stuff? What really goes on in our heads? I always felt the need to be heard, but struggled to find a space for women, and specially mothers to speak frankly.
This is where the idea for this project came from, a place to speak openly about motherhood and everything else that comes with it. I will interview and photograph moms in Portland, OR and hope that this will help other parents to feel more comfortable to talk about their feelings. Hope you enjoy it!
Tell me a bit about yourself, what would you like others to know about you?
That my aspirations are much bigger than my capacity to achieve many of them, my ADHD is the bane of my existence as a mom, that I am really proud of how my children demonstrate the ethics I have instilled in them, and that I am trying really hard to be a good steward of the earth, member of my community and mother and wife.
How do you define motherhood?
A lot of laughs, deep frustration, guilt, bottomless big love, fear and simultaneously hope.
Do you feel motherhood has changed you? In what ways?
I am a lot kinder. I am more forgiving of others. I am also less passive, and more proactive.
What is your biggest fear as a mother?
My children being sexually assaulted or otherwise harmed. Unfortunately, this has been realized for me.
What support do you think mothers lack the most in society?
Support to nurse, time off to care for sick family. For society to support being a working mom, or a stay at home mom equally. I think we’re all missing time for sisterhood. Modern life doesn’t allow for the connection we would get if we were doing laundry at the river, harvesting crops together, or even chatting while our children play in the yard. We aren’t connecting or in touch with each other, and we’re suffering.
How can mothers show up for each other?
That’s what makes this pandemic so hard, right? I desperately wish I could safely say “Hey, send your kids over for awhile. They can hang out and I’ll feed them dinner while you do whatever you want to do.” Pandemic aside, I think we just need to be nicer to one another. I think we’re all so wound up, we’re really quick to be nasty to one another
How do you want to remember this period in your life?
I want to feel like I did a “good job”, but what does that even mean? I’ll never have a clean house, or library books returned on time, or that I’ve never screamed at them, so I guess I want to remember this time as a time that I created magic with my family. I cherish our gardening, my volunteering at their school, camping trips, snow days, creating art etc., and all the times I took in their wonder and awe in learning something new. It has been a bumpy ride, but there has been a lot of joy.
If you would like to see more of my photography work or get in touch about being interviewed for this series, get in touch at www.egomesgreenbergphotography.com